Want to Give Up? Wait.. May be next trial is Your success break!

Want to Give Up? Wait..  Maybe next trial is  Your success break!

We often want to give up when there are long series of failures with no success, investment but no return. But that's actually the test of your patience your will for your dream and if you give up at that moment that you were not determined to achieve it!

We often receive the “Good Bye” mails in our official mail box, some from known and some are just random, we get happy for them that they are going a better place and even happier for the farewell cake! Now, the situation and reaction is different if you are still planning and the leaver is your friend or a team mate (especially when he is actually someone who joined with or after you). The moment the news breaks on you something just explodes, though the face is smiling for the person but actually all hell is breaking loose inside. So, you get out or to the loo for the after math, what just happened? You didn’t actually saw this coming and now you cannot do anything except pretending to be happy about it. That night you won’t be able to sleep, instead you are busy in updating your resume, reaching out to your contacts checking if there is any vacancy and hoping that something happens overnight !

Well your friends or well-wishers put some sense in you and suggests you to polish your skills and warm up a little bit. So, from the very next day you start the preparation in full swing having all the study material, expert’s comment, after work classes. While this is going on, you just desperately wait for your phone to ring and someone asking you “I am XYZ from ABC company are you looking for a change?”  Days turn into weeks, you re-check your contacts and once in a month you get a call, happiness is no bound at that time, you went for it and get rejected! Obviously you are prepared for a rejection, may be even more but then come that rejection where you want to totally give up and all your patience fuel is now burnt up!

Imagine yourself in a party where your friends make fun of your extra belly, you twitch your face and suck your tummy in and somehow pull through the party. Coming back to the house, you watch yourself in the mirror and see that extra fat deposited everywhere of your body. You feel bad and also decide to work on that asap. So, very next day you opt for a gym membership, boiled vegetables, stairs and checking the fat percentage count on the back of chips packets. Very enthusiastically you follow your diet for quite good time and then again a party comes your way but surprisingly same people commented again! You feel cheated. Now you have 2 choices, A) Come back home and eats a lot of carbs and in no time come back to square one B) Just take this pain inside, use it next day in the gym and get yourself ready for another party. There will be no prize for guessing if I’ll tell you that 80% of people actually follow option A and these people actually end up going to “XXL” from “XL” and rest will be proudly flaunting their body curves.

You know what’s the basic difference between these types?  It’s “the grit” aka “perseverance” aka “being consistent”. When you got rejected did you try again? Even if you do, did you eventually succeed?  if the answer is “No” that means you kept a count on number of rejections but my friend success demands an infinite trials. If technically speak it’s an infinite for loop with break statements only for “Success” and “Giving Up” and an increment on the count of trial if failure. Ask any person who have successfully lost weight; it takes a lot of sacrifices and most importantly “sticking to it”. But every single pain and sacrifice gets justified when someone comment on your body curve. So, the next time when you are on urge to quit just imagine your dream post on social media and prepare for your next trial!

Ask any successful person you know, they will definitely have a trial story to tell that eventually becomes the success story. So, create your own trails that will carve your path to success!!

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